Parents work hard and try to do their best to raise their children successful and fulfill individuals.
But besides all the good intentions they make mistakes, and instead of helping to go forward they bring the child back.
Here are 8 of the parenting behaviors that keep children from being successful.
1. DISCOURAGING TRYING NEW THINGS
Discouraging kids from trying a new skill even if you have best intentions in restricting behavior, when they belief that their child will fail. Failure is a part of life and kids need to learn how to deal with it in a positive way .
Doing any chore that the child should and can do is a parenting behavior that can prevent your children to become successful.
3. PRAISING SMALL THINGS
Praising small accomplishments is not the way to motivate your kids and to keep driving themselves to accomplish more and more.
For example, praising an 8-year old for dressing themselves is silly,you need to praise on the significant accomplishments that children make, like some educational performance .
4. DISCOURAGING FRIENDSHIPS
A strong social support system that your children establish will help them to rely on in times of uncertainty or stress.
Hovering over a child’s every move will make the child to think that his mom or dad do not believe in his ability to be successful . This behavior of a parent can distrust the child in his own abilities and take fewer risks.
6. OVERLY STRICT PARENTING BEHAVIOR
University College London made one research and found that harsh parenting behavior affects child self-control and with conduct problems later in life.
The researchers say that ‘Harsh parenting predicted conduct problems for both boys and girls. Self-control at age 9 predicted conduct problems and emotional difficulties at age 12.’
Lower self-control levels are a result of strictly overseeing children’s behavior and overly restrictive in the boundaries .Kids , especially as they learn to manage their behavior within the reasonable boundaries that they have already mastered, to experience greater and greater freedom is essential to children being successful.
7. DISCOURAGING EMOTIONAL EXPRESSION
In a healthy relationship there must be a balance of give and take with honest discussion about frustrations, worries, and things that upset you .This way you will teach your child about negative emotions and how to handle them without suppressing them.
8. NOT PRACTICING WHAT IS TAUGHT
Children watch parenting behavior and try to see if it matches with the way they are teaching them and if your behavior is different with what you teach your children to do, he will get mixed messages and may experience confusion about what is really right.